Every time I log onto Facebook, someone from my hometown is either getting engaged, pregnant or both. Personally, at my age and life status (rock bottom), I can’t imagine getting married or having a baby.
I can’t help but wonder where the hell they are meeting these people? Statistically, there is only about 28% of married graduates that attended the same college, but some campuses have a higher rate due to gender ratio and religious affiliation.
Last semester, I strapped myself onto the roller-coaster (of loooove) and used primary research to figure out the number one hot spots. I understand how difficult it can be when you’re loaded with 15+ hours, clubs/organizations and a job/internship, but you can still put yourself out there without sacrificing other commitments.
The tower bells have rung and here is a list of the best (and most promising) places to meet your potential future partner in college.*Disclaimer* I’m not a dating expert or a sociology, psychology major/minor. This is something I did for fun and thought it would be interesting to share my results.
Of course, I’ve got to start this off with good ole’ Tinder. If you’ve been under a rock, Tinder is an app that matches you with people within a certain radius depending on your location. You receive matches by liking someones’ picture (swipe right) and them liking yours back.Once you’ve been matched, then you can start messaging.
During my Tinder days (R.I.P.), I only actually met up with two guys and one was a melodramatic love-sick puppy and the other was a 24 year old post-grad who majored in douche-bag and minored in tool. Granted, I did hangout with each multiple times, but clearly things didn’t work out.
On the contrary, I know multiple people that have found successful relationships from Tinder, so it just depends on your luck.
Possibility of getting catfished
Higher chances of them talking to multiple people at once
The anticipation/awkwardness of meeting for the first time
Matches don’t always lead to a conversation or meeting up outside the app
Pros Potential to meet people you may have never met
App is available 24/7 and free for iPhone & Android
You have control of selecting age ranges and how far away they are from you
Potential to meet people you may have never met
During your first two years of college, it may be a bit challenging due to the size of classes (if you go to a large university), but once you start to take major specific courses then meeting people in class gets easier.
If you’re in a major that’s predominately same sex and you’re interested in the other then this may not work for you, but you can always take electives outside of your major.
Personally, I’ve never had anything flourish from someone I met during class, but this has a higher success rate if you do it right. Hint: put a little effort into your appearance. It helps you stand out among the sea of XL t-shirts and Sperry’s.
If things don’t work out, class may get awkward
They may only be talking to you because you sit near them
Time available to talk may be limited when teacher is instructing
Pros Easier to build a relationship as friends first
You know the day that you get to interact with them
Hints of interest are more obvious (ex: asking you to study outside of class or be partners for an assignment)
Campus Events/Clubs and Organizations
Easier to build a relationship as friends first
Large campuses can be intimidating so it’s easy to just become another face in the crowd, but that’s why clubs/organizations host hundreds of events throughout the school year. If you’re not into big crowds like at a show, it can even be as small as checking out a bake or poster sale.
Not going to lie, before I became a member of the Student Union Board at my school, I didn’t really go to campus events, but I’ve met tons of new people since then. So definitely check out what your school has to offer.
Whatever your interests may be there’s most likely a group for that and if not, you can start one by getting a faculty member to sponsor it.
I met a guy at a poster sale and he was a nice, but too old fashioned for me. We hung out off campus a few times and got lunch once or twice. We even went to the Bacon Expo at my school together, but we haven’t talked in months and he graduated in May.
Might be harder to approach people in groups if you go alone
Ages of attendees may vary
A lot more competition
Pros More likely to have something in common since you’re at the same event/show
If things don’t work out romantically, you can have a buddy to go to events/show with
Potential to meet people you may have not met otherwise
Easier to start small conversations with people
More likely to have something in common since you’re at the same event/show
Majority of colleges come with a nightlife (I hope) that includes a variety of bars, clubs or both. Not to mention the numerous frat and house parties for all those who aren’t 21.
This is most likely the #1 way people meet their potential significant others in college, because if you choose to participate chances are you’re under the influence, which typically makes people more outgoing than they would be sober.
Last semester, I met seven guys via bars and house parties, which may sound promising but the odds were not in my favor. The first guy I met was going through a breakup and graduated in May. Five of them were the typical college guy trying to “Netflix and chill”, and the last guy and I actually fling’d for less than 2 months.
Overall, I still wouldn’t take meeting people at any of these places too seriously, but it’s great practice to put yourself out there.
Way more competition
Low lighting makes it hard to see people
Less likely to lead to a relationship if you hook-up
Difficult to have a real conversation/easier to get interrupted
Pros Encouragement from friends (and alcohol)
Potential to meet people you may have not met otherwise
Easier to start a small conversation
Chances of people being single and looking is higher
Encouragement from friends (and alcohol)
Lastly, in my opinion meeting through a mutual friend is the best way to meet people. I’ve met three guys through mutual friends and they were the most promising.
It’s the easiest way to minimize the uncertainty of intentions and awkwardness of meeting when getting to know each other at first.
One of the guys was a friend of my good friends boyfriend, the second was a personal friend of a guy friend, and the last one was friends of another guy friends roommate. Woah, hopefully that made sense, but I still talk to one of the guys, so not too shabby if you ask me.
Friendships are easily put at risk
Harder to avoid if you end up not being interested
Chances of drama is higher if everyone’s running in the same circle
Pros You’ll feel more comfortable since they’re not complete strangers
More likely to be someone you’re compatible with
You can easily ask for advice from someone who already knows them
Easier to start the friend route by hanging out in groups
You’ll feel more comfortable since they’re not complete strangers
In the end, I had a lot of fun putting myself out there and saying yes when I typically would have said no. I definitely recommend you to give it a try, it’s quite interesting to experience the different personalities you come across.
I’ve certainly gained a lot more knowledge about the kind of person I would like to end up with and accepted the fact that I’m not going to find my own Evan Peters look-a-like.
Out of the 13 guys that I met last semester, there is only two that I would maybe add to my “Call five years later to try and reconnect” list if I’m desperate and still just as single as a slice of Kraft cheese.
Please comment letting me know your thoughts on where you think the best place to meet people is and if you’re in a relationship then comment how you met. I would love to hear!
Thanks for reading and stay hungry to learn, create and grow!